It is a great privilege to be welcomed into the spiritual journey of a young person. More so, I have considered it a privilege to hear the stories of many youth both those close as well as far from God.
With a deep love for the local church, allow me to share that through conversations with youth and youth workers it has become evident that as the Church, we can no longer continue to do things the way we have done to reach and engage young people.
We are living in a different age where young people are leaving the church en masse. Our historic model of programming, events, and large groups are all good –but we are missing the foundational element that will allow us to reach the next generation – a faith community rooted in mentoring.
This foundational element is something not new, but rather it is highlighted many places throughout scripture (Psalm 78, 2 Timothy 2:22 etc) and is actually one modeled by Jesus who simply welcomes his disciples to be with him and learn from him in the everyday moments of life.
I have to say that one of the most significant reasons that I am where I am in my journey with Jesus and have chosen to give my life to follow him has in large part to do with a man named Andrew. I meet him when I was 13 years old. By trade he was a lawyer but all he was to me was someone whom I could trust, share openly, be challenged by and who was a reflection of Jesus.
Our main place of being together was Tim Hortons – it was there I knew I could chat and wrestle with questions about life, spirituality and know that I didn’t have to impress Andrew but that he always had my back. But this mentoring relationship would expand to see him watch me at my hockey games, do devotions together at McDonalds, learn how to drive standard as well any many other everyday life things.
As I look at Psalm 78 it is clear that the responsibility of training the next generation in the ways of the Lord is not simply the role of those with a title of youth pastor, or youth worker, but for everyone who chooses to walk with Jesus.
Chap Clark and Kara Powell have done extensive reach on the lives of today’s teens and what they are finding is that for students to come into the faith and walk with Jesus for their lifetime, they need to have at least five adults regularly investing into their spiritual journey during their teen years – this is not meaning just someone who runs a youth program or is a small group leader – this is something who is regularly involved in their day to day lives.
So my friends, in looking at Psalm 78 – each of us needs to hear the calling that youth ministry isn’t for a few, but that each of us are responsible for giving our lives to invest into the lives of the next generation and raising them up in the way of the Lord.
The church is not the place where the next generation gets dropped off and hope that church leaders do a good job, rather, as parents, grandparents and spiritual parents to youth who don’t have a Christian home, we all speak into the lives of our children and lead them in the ways of the Lord, and we need see the church and the church leadership as a support to the primary work we are doing in our everyday lives.
The reality is that student’s lives are busy with work, academics, extra-curricular activities, friends, and family. To think that 20 minutes a week of Biblical teaching is going to be the ultimate discipleship means we are fooling ourselves. All elements of youth ministry like events, Bible studies, games, retreats, and worship are all wonderful, but I would argue that these need to built upon young people in mentoring relationships with Christian adults who are little further along on the journey.
I wonder what it would look like to …
1. Have each adult in the church Sharing Life Together (or mentoring) a younger person. And have every teenager investing their life into a younger child.
2. See the church give youth a chance to lead while having the support of a mentor who will coach them through those leadership opportunities.
3. Encourage and support parents in having a vibrant faith that is lived out through the entire week with their children.
Young People will become engaged with the faith when the faith is more than a building, more than a program, more than just being talked at – when it is a living and active experience of God in trusted people in their lives who demonstrate the love, compassion, grace and redemption found in the person and message of Jesus.
One thing I have learned over the years is that our purpose is not to drag youth to where we want them to be, but instead we need to guide, listen and empower the next generation to remain faithful to God’s teaching, to love others and love God, and to see that being a Christ Follower is not just about saying a prayer and going to church, but it is living a life that is God honouring and points others to the hope found in Jesus.
As mentors we live the life that helps those that we mentor makes sense of who Jesus is.
Matt Wilkinson is the Director of Youth Ministries @ CBOQ, LEAD222 Canada, & Today’s Teens Conference